Tag: thanksgiving

  • Simple, Not Easy

    Simple, Not Easy

    Inspired by Peaceful Porches

    So many goals in life are simple to achieve. Connection with family members grows with uninterrupted time together. Wealth comes with spending less and investing the remainder. Weight loss requires eating clean and exercising daily. The instructions seem so basic and simple. However, they are rarely easy.

    The instruction I especially find to be simple but not easy is the call for us to live as Jesus did. His life was busy and full, yet he was never hurried and definitely lived simply.

    It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

    Galatians 2:20

    We are instructed to place all trust in Him and live by faith. We are given stories of the life we’re meant to emulate, the life of Jesus.

    I have short, simple phrases on a chalkboard hanging next to our dining table to describe the way Jesus lived as a guide for my family. This is a rudimentary interpretation of how to walk through life like Jesus did:

    Go for a long walk. Simple. Love others. Simple. Ask questions and listen for the answers. Simple. Invite others in for a meal or a chat. Simple. Find solitude and rest. Simple.

    If the principles are simple, why is it so difficult to implement them?

    We are human. We’re sinners. We’re easily distracted and easily charmed by the ways of this world. We enjoy material possessions. We can be manipulated by marketing and advertising. We like to be entertained, even by immoral people and practices. We are stubborn and headstrong. We think we know better about how to live a full life.

    Our lives are certainly full. My life, in particular, is full of responding to kids’ needs, cooking, cleaning, gardening, soccer practices and games, errands, calendar planning, homeschooling, friends and social activities, travel, budgeting, investing, reading, writing, and so much more. I’m sure your list is just as long too. We have busy lives, affording little time left over to focus on how to yield to the Holy Spirit and live as Jesus taught us.

    The good news is that it’s possible to have both. We just have to prioritize the simple. We have to redeem our time in order to live like our Redeemer. In Jordan Raynor’s book, Redeeming Our Time, the author lays out 7 principles for living a more purposeful, productive, and present life that would emulate the life of Jesus much more closely than how most of us live today. The 7 principles are:

    • Start with the Word
    • Let your Yes be Yes
    • Dissent from the Kingdom of Noise
    • Prioritize your Yeses
    • Accept your Unipresence
    • Embrace Productive Rest
    • Eliminate All Hurry

    I recommend checking out his book and/or his week-long devotional through the Bible app. It’s a great way to get started on living more simply yet remaining focused on the gifts and purpose the Lord has set for your life.

    I’d also recommend finding a place that allows you to separate from the noise of this world, rest and renew yourself, and pray without distraction. Until we intentionally center our lives around the simple, we will continue to let the frenzy of this world lead us away from our purpose. I’m most certainly aware, though, that this is much easier said than done.

    When I need to find solitude and a little quiet time to focus, I love stepping out onto my back porch or the porch of any home we stay in while traveling. Although I can hear the sounds of birds, cicadas, cars, and children playing in back yards, I feel a sense of peace as soon as I shut the door and breathe in the fresh air. It’s often where I read, pray, write, and do yoga. That place of solitude is different for each person and at each home, but it’s so essential for embracing the simple side of life. I hope you’ve found yours.

    Hyatt Hill Country in San Antonio, TX
    Washington on the Brazos State Historic Site
    The Kendall in Boerne, TX
  • The Benefits of Thanksgiving

    The Benefits of Thanksgiving

    I love that many families practice gratitude for the entire month leading up to Thanksgiving. The tradition of a Thankful Tree is one of my family’s favorites, and I’m pleasantly surprised that it’s something our children look forward to as well.

    Thankful tree

    On the first of November when the sugar rush from Halloween is starting to subside, we display the hand-sewn wall hanging my mother-in-law made, and I unevenly cut leaf shapes out of six fall shades of construction paper. Each family member gets his or her own color, and at dinner throughout the month, we write something we are thankful for on our leaves. It can be big and abstract, like love or faith, or it can be something as small and simple as pencils and paper, which was displayed on one of my preschooler’s leaves last Fall. (If you’ve been wanting to start this tradition but don’t want to make one yourself, Amazon has a great option.)

    After the Thanksgiving holiday, I save those little leaves of gratitude in our family time capsules to look back on in the future. In addition to the answers that make me a proud mama, such as Jesus, family, veterans, teachers, and neighbors, so many of my kids’ and husband’s answers reveal quite a bit about their current personalities and interests. A few that my mom-brain has allowed to seep into long-term memory include:

    • “Johnny Football” – my rebellious daughter’s answer when the Aggie quarterback was blowing up the college football scene, despite her mother’s affiliation to the Texas Longhorns
    • “Hot lunches” – my husband’s not-so-discrete way to show his gratitude for mid-day *alone time* with me
    • “Paw Patrol waffles” – just one of the specific food answers given by the toddlers in our home
    • “My future dog” – yet another clever opportunity for my kids to beg for a pet

    I absolutely love hearing and reading what each of my family members is thankful for, and there are no rules about what to say or write, just that you have to come up with something. But more importantly, I love that we’re taking even just a couple minutes out of our day to focus on gratitude. I cherish those moments that can quickly reverse the criticism, complaining, and chaos that often manifests during our busy afternoons.

    There has been quite a bit of research done across multiple disciplines about the benefits of gratitude, from the religious sectors all the way to the personal finance industry. Gratitude simply makes life better. It has been shown to improve your mental, physical, and emotional health. It opens the door to better relationships, both personal and spiritual. It enhances empathy and leads to less aggression and more acceptance. Also, grateful people sleep better, eat healthier, and build stronger careers. Grateful people even spend less money!

    So, why do so many of us intentionally practice giving thanks ONLY in the month of November? This practice needs to be a year-round aspiration! When that Thankful Tree is soon replaced by another holiday tree, then Valentine’s hearts, then Easter baskets and Spring flowers, what gratitude tradition will carry on? Here are a few (maybe less-obvious) ways to sustain the benefits of Thanksgiving throughout the year…

    Praise and Prayer

    Hang a poster board, butcher paper, or a chalk board up with the words, “Praise” and “Prayer”, in a high traffic area in your home, such as the back door or the mud room. Encourage family members to write what they are thankful for on the Praise side and ask for prayers for themselves and others on the opposite side.

    gratitude journal

    Gratitude Journal

    Keep a spiral notebook open on the kitchen counter and have each person jot down something they are grateful for or something they’re looking forward to in the journal each day. Bring it to the dinner table one day per week and share your family’s good news with each other.

    Random Thank You Notes

    random thank you notes to instill gratitude

    I am terrible at writing out thank you notes after a birthday party. I wish I was better at it, but maybe thank you notes would be even more appreciated when they’re not considered obligatory. Keep thank you notes available in your home and practice writing notes to friends after an act of kindness or a fun night out. Encourage your kids to do the same, even to their own siblings. Gasp! 

    Closet and Pantry Inventory

    Before going shopping for something new or for Christmas gifts, take a mental (or written) inventory of what’s in your closet or pantry. This can help you and your kids recognize how much you already own and be grateful for it. This practice will also likely prevent you from over-spending on what you don’t really need. Also, you may even find gifts for others in your home and skip the shopping trip altogether.

    Pick a “No-Negativity Day”

    Life is tough! Venting helps.

    But maybe, just one day per week can become a sacred “No-Negativity” day. On this day, focus entirely on being positive. This would be a HUGE challenge for me and therefore, this is one tradition I’m going to strive for throughout the year! Someone please hold me accountable.

    For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

    Matthew 6:21

    In this season of thankfulness, I am truly grateful that I have the freedom to try something fun and to venture out of my comfort zone by writing and sharing my random thoughts in this blog, but I am even more thankful for those of you who take the time to read it.

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  • The Benefits of Thanksgiving

    The Benefits of Thanksgiving

    I love that many families practice gratitude long before the actual day of Thanksgiving, and the tradition of a Thankful Tree is one of my favorite family traditions. I’m pleasantly surprised that it’s something our children look forward to as well. On the first

    Thankful tree

    of November when the sugar rush from Halloween is starting to subside, we display the hand-sewn wall hanging my mother-in-law made, and I unevenly cut shapes slightly resembling leaves out of six fall shades of construction paper. Each family member gets his or her own color, and at dinner throughout the month, we write something we are thankful for on our leaves. It can be big and abstract, like love or faith, or it can be something as small and simple as pencils and paper, which was displayed on one of my preschooler’s leaves last Fall. After the month of Thanksgiving ends, I save those little leaves of gratitude in our family time capsules to look back on in the future. In addition to the answers that make me a proud mama, such as Jesus, family, veterans, teachers, and neighbors, so many of my kids’ and husband’s answers reveal quite a bit about their current personalities and interests. A few that my mom-brain has allowed to seep into long-term memory include:

    • “Johnny Football” – my rebellious daughter’s answer when the Aggie quarterback was blowing up the college football scene, despite her mother’s affiliation to the Texas Longhorns
    • “Hot lunches” – my husband’s not-so-discrete way to show his gratitude for mid-day *alone time* with me
    • “Paw Patrol waffles” – just one of the specific food answers given by the toddlers in our home
    • “My future dog” – yet another clever opportunity for my kids to beg for a pet

    I absolutely love hearing and reading what each of my family members is thankful for, and there are no rules about what to say or write, just that you have to come up with something. But more importantly, I love that we’re taking even just a couple minutes out of our day to focus on gratitude. I cherish those moments that can quickly reverse the criticism, complaining, and chaos that often manifests during our busy afternoons.

    Thankful

    There has been quite a bit of research done across multiple disciplines about the benefits of gratitude, from the religious sectors all the way to the personal finance industry. Gratitude simply makes life better. It has been shown to improve your mental, physical, and emotional health. It opens the door to better relationships, both personal and spiritual. It enhances empathy and leads to less aggression and more acceptance. Also, grateful people sleep better, eat healthier, and build stronger careers. Grateful people even spend less money!

    So, why do so many of us intentionally practice giving thanks ONLY in the month of November? This practice needs to be a year-round aspiration! When that Thankful Tree is soon replaced by another holiday tree, then Valentine’s hearts, then Easter baskets and Spring flowers, what gratitude tradition will carry on? Here are a few (maybe less-obvious) ways to sustain the benefits of Thanksgiving throughout the year…

    1. Praise and Prayer Board – Hang a poster board, butcher paper, or a chalk board up
      Praise and Prayer
      with the words, “Praise” and “Prayer”, in a high traffic area in your home, such as the back door or the mud room. Encourage family members to write what they are thankful for on the Praise side and ask for prayers for themselves and others on the opposite side.
    2. Gratitude Journal – Keep a spiral notebook open on the kitchen counter and have each person jot down something they are grateful for or something they’re looking forward to in the journal each day. Bring it to the dinner table one day per week and share your family’s good news with each other.
    3. Random Thank You Notes – I am terrible at writing out thank you notes after a
      thank you
      birthday party. I wish I was better at it, but maybe thank you notes would be even more appreciated when they’re not considered obligatory. Keep blank thank you notes available in your home and practice writing notes to friends after an act of kindness or a fun night out. Encourage your kids to do the same, even to their own siblings. Gasp!
    4. Closet and Pantry Inventory – Before going shopping for something new, take a mental (or written) inventory of what’s in your closet or pantry. This can help you or your kids recognize how much you already own and be grateful for it. This practice will also likely prevent you from over-spending on what you don’t really need.
    5. Pick a “No-Negativity Day” – Life is tough! And venting helps! But maybe just one day per week (or month) can become a sacred “No-Negativity” day. On this day, focus entirely on being positive. This would be a HUGE challenge for me and therefore, this is one tradition I’m going to strive for throughout the year! Someone please hold me accountable.

    In this season of thankfulness, I am truly grateful that I have the freedom to try something fun and to venture out of my comfort zone by writing and sharing my random thoughts in this blog, but I am even more thankful for those of you who actually take the time to read it. Thank you!

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